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This is a 6 to 7-year-old child's classroom.

class has started 10 minutes later, a girl, accompanied by her mother entered the classroom, girls 7 years old, entered the classroom after the mother's hand arm would not let go, this caught my attention.

classroom each child's mother are in the classroom to observe, mothers and fathers sitting in the classroom are final, do not sit with the kids, this is my request. This can be avoided by children to express themselves when their parents are not subject to interference.

So I said to this woman and her daughter: “Mom, please sit in the back position, the child to the front. “

girl clutched her mother's hand tightly, her mother's arms to the drill head has been good in his seat all the children turned to look at them at this time, I saw on understand the child's situation, immediately said: “That mother to sit with their children in front of it. “

our class continued, the children in the classroom is active, the girl is the oldest of these children, but she almost did not participate in our discussions, a number of exercises in the classroom not involved, but fortunately she was attentively listened to my class, because the course content and children's physical, life closely related, but form also appeal to children, there are comic books, small movies, toys, teaching aids, as I am.

I saw the girl's mother left in the bottom half of girls in the classroom, to the position of parents sat.

break, I simply share with the girls mother, I sat down after the situation of girls around, girls see me coming immediately drill down to the table, I began to have a chat without a land and girls, she also respond to me. 5 minutes later she was sitting next to me drilled out, I know at this time she began to accept me. Into a pleasant state of our chat. Girl's mother sat in the distance looking at us, she was a child I observed the exchange.

me: “I saw you today coming in, to accompany her mother sit here and lecture you. “

girl:” ah, I did not want to sit here. “

me:” you do not have one, ah, ah these children stay with you “

Girl:” But I still want to stay with my mother, “

me: “I know you go to school this year, and if going to school, you have mom with you sitting in a classroom? “

girl:” ah “

me:” You go to school with other children in the class after the mother is not sitting in a classroom, only your mother in the classroom , is it? “

girl:” ah “

me:” But at school the classroom so that mothers can not stay with the child sitting in a classroom, ah, “

girl: “I'm going to stay with my mother”

me: “Teachers are not allowed, so you go to school, my mother can not accompany you are sitting in a classroom of “

girl:” When I go to school than now, maybe I do not need to accompany my mother, but also a long time before I go to school. “

girls showed a trace of pain, then she shifted the topic.

brought a girl pointed at her beautiful glass container: “see my snails yet? “Girls have a small fine table glass container, I did not carefully read what was inside, the girl pointed to the glass containers, said:” The inside is a snail, “secretly glad my heart, I am pleased that Although girls in my school really wanted to tell her, after some pain, but she did not leave me to my mother huddled in the arms, not evaded me, but I continue to take the initiative to find topics and exchange. I was surprised and said: “ah, I do not see inside the snail ah! “It is true that I did not see that very small snails and small snails may not tell is there inside of leaves,” is the baby snails it “girl laughed, I asked,” Where did you catch these snails baby ah? “Girl:” caught in the grass, I came to class today, when the grass by the roadside caught. “I immediately realized that this was a girl and other children the opportunity to build relationships, then told the girl:” Are you willing to give them see your snails, you can tell us a lot of snails in the knowledge it “girl smiled and nodded. I called the children together and told them in a glass, there is a secret, so that we line up observation, and then the girl told us the knowledge of the snail. The children are excited and immediately line up observation, self-confident smile of girls floating in the face, eyes shining with happiness, busy explaining to everyone, has no time to just enter the classroom that shyness. At this point I left the girls side, so kids have their own world.

I turned to see her mother, she sat on the original location did not move, but has tears! Mom said to me: I know your heart, you also learn ways to help my daughter, thanks!

2 hours after class, other children and parents have left, I chatted with the girl's mother for an hour. Girls present educational concepts in a modern kindergarten, because the current situation does not fit into the school, they had in kindergarten. Conversation with the mother, whether I realized that kindergarten teacher or a child in a positive way their parents did not let the children aware of their ability, they fear harm to children, such as children in kindergarten, the teacher let the children decide for themselves whether to participate in group programs and group activities, if the child say no to participate, the teacher let the children alone, sloshing, said it was the children free, if it will harm the child to force children to participate in the passage of time, the children will feel themselves and collective isolation, and increasingly unwilling to participate collective, which is the injury for a child. If it is for a just less than 3 years of age to enter kindergarten children, we can not force children to participate in some activities, but for a 7 year old children, we should try to guide the children to participate in group activities, to comply with school discipline, the future for the children to enter school fully prepared, this is the child a responsible attitude and approach.

as parents, the mother received a number of new educational concepts, but there is no thorough understanding of these fundamental concepts, no one who knows what is in the child's injury, what is the child growing frustration, so too worried that children have been hurt, the children have also avoided the normal setbacks, then children grow strong in the inner frustration opportunity also been removed, this is the child's over-protection, over-protection of children actually is also an injury.

about what is to hurt, harm to the child what is and what is frustration, frustration to the child is what we in the film “looks beautiful,” the appreciation has been more talked about. In general, do not respect the inherent laws of development of the child, humiliation, beatings, degrading treatment of children, etc., is hurt. The 7-year-old told her mother can not accompany children to school, it is not hurt.

children for their own development can not be grasped, the children in our free time, not give them the freedom to act, but rather give them the freedom of inner spiritual development, giving children grow up according to their own rhythm to develop their own freedom, if you do not know what is the freedom to their children, do not understand the law of child development, then we give them random free Bawo not help children grow up and growth opportunities, which is on the child's injury .