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today at home, received a call from a parent advisory chenyang phone, my mother told me pain: response to their 8-year-old teacher's son (second grade), frequent masturbation when class act.

when they heard this news I am shocked, think of the preceding line to see an 8-year-old girl was also similar bad habits, often by hand squeezing the genitals during class, sometimes clamping feet, hands repeated friction of the written reports, I also believe that some people in the use of the network to hype the purpose of this platform which ….

today, the mother, listen to the voice, the tone on the very anxious and painful! Homeroom teacher response, my son often do not pay attention in class, masturbate, usually confused with perspiration, his face red. The teacher has given him reason, parents and even beats a way to heavy fines, trying to reach as soon as possible, the purpose of completely correct, the effect is not obvious, this is very worried and desperate to request expert advice for guidance, mother long-distance call has been a full 40 minutes long ……

night is dark, but I now There is no sleep, the voice of a child suffering and crying mother's tone has lingering in my mind, lingering, this heavy blow to me! My first mother, then is the teacher!

(children because the hot weather coupled with his hands repeatedly friction, inflammation of genitals in a state of long-term, mother Jia … )

Experts advise parents: stop child masturbation to moderate behavior

about children's sexual psychology and education, and some Parents deny sexual psychological problems of children, some parents of children admitted sexual psychological problems, but refused to be the children's sex education that children naturally grow up to know; some parents do not know what child sexual psychology in the end, including aspects also not clear-cut attitude. Many parents believe that sex education is sexual activity. Problems of children who refuses to talk about the attitude of the parents sit by and let the majority.

suddenly discovered one day when the child was in trouble, parents feel the terrible things came. They all blame to the child, anger was vented to the child's head. In fact, it is not fair, because the parents did not provide them with the necessary education relating to sex. With the social development and opening up, parents should be their children's education on the agenda. Indifferent and evasive attitude is no longer embarrassed, but related to the children the healthy growth of a big problem.

a child what kind of sexual feelings what?

modern psychology and a large number of experimental results that after the birth of children with physical pleasure. Although the children were physically and sensory pleasure in different ways and means and adults, but with the characteristics of natural and sexual feeling is not one day suddenly come to us for. Psychologists believe that children glad to be touching, itching, cuddle, kiss, etc., of which a significant component of the color with the sexual instinct.

children to the age of two, will feel that their excretion things a lot of fun, this is a very common phenomenon. Some children had urinary scatter, will hold a small branch in the urine on the plan to cross it out, he did not think feces ugly, unpleasant, and sometimes proud of. In such cases, some parents would loudly denounced or prevent the child. As the sexual organs and excretory organs closely linked to the brutal attitude of parents may lead children hate his body and body products, leading to the mystery of sex, guilt and other psychological disorder. But the kids will not give up the exploration of sex, just behind her parents secretly continue Bale. With this sense of mystery and crime, once the parents have the opportunity to get rid of the control and surveillance, child guidance in the absence of proper context could have been avoided would take the wrong road.

With the growth of a child's body, he will find genital pleasure is the body most prone areas. The attitude of parents on this issue should be: recognition of a child found in the fact that he can get the pleasure of the flesh and not feel guilty so. Children need parental guidance at this time, let him know that pleasure is no obstruction.

if one day the girl found her clitoris some kind of special feelings and told my mother, my mother should be frankly expressed the belief, and agree not to make a fuss to impose a warning.

mystical attitude of parents strongly influence children's psychology. On the secrecy of the parents of the children educated, because not the right guidance, often under enormous psychological pressure, the parental attitude and the fact that the body between the psychological contradictions in the end, or break the ban on parents , behind her parents bold attempt; or abide by the admonitions of parents, attitudes to sex are wrong, seriously affected the development of personality and interpersonal, withdrawn and difficult social, and thus affect the intellectual development.

Second, find the phenomenon of child masturbation, parents how to do?

First of all, to understand this behavior on children affect children's behavior that masturbation will lead to reduction of small children between the partners and family members and close contacts. Similarly, partners and parents of small influence on his power could be reduced. When he indulged in such a short-term comfort, do not have to rely on others to help you can pleasure themselves, effortlessly, he can create himself a listen to him and his hands of the world.

masturbation habits persist, when setbacks come , it has become a haven for children the most convenient. With this simple substitution, he would not have to struggle, to strive for success.

Second, in understanding the basis of moderate parents to stop this masturbation, it not only afflict the child's spirit, but also hinder children's progress, will result in the child's personality defects, reduction of interest in his dealings with people. Therefore, must be stopped. But the pressure must be moderate, otherwise it will lead to counterproductive.

the most important is that masturbation is the lack of child care performance, so parents must make him feel the love and help him have more new things, when he was curious about the outside world, attention will be transferred. Although occasionally there is the phenomenon of masturbation, but will not form a big problem.